Sunday, August 5, 2007

How to Beat Other Men in The Dating Game....

Dating is a very competitive game, it is either you get the girl that you love, or some other guys get the girl. A lot of self-confidence and motivation are needed to survive in this game.

In the dating game, you will have a lot of competitors, some are tough, some are just weak. The point here is, if you want to succeed in dating, you should not allow yourself to fall into the weak category.

But in reality, it is very easy to fall into the weak category, especially for men who just broke off from their long term relationship....

When you have just ended a long term relationship, the period after that is a difficult one. Most of the guys will be wondering what will happen? Will they ever get a new special woman in their life? I think it's easy for men to become so comfortable and emotionally dependent in a relationship that they experience a lot of FEAR when ending that relationship.

Getting back to the “dating game” is not as hard as what you guys think. If you know how to go out anytime to meet women, you should not be afraid at all, because those set of skills are still deeply rooted in your brain.

When you know how to go out anytime and meet women, you will have the following benefits:

1) When you know that you can meet women anytime you want, it makes you stop acting so NEEDY and CLINGY in a relationship. Most needy and clingy behaviors are rooted in the FEAR that you will never be able to find another woman.

2) When it comes to ending a relationship, this skill makes things MUCH easier. Too many of you guys stay in relationships that are bad for you, and are afraid to END a relationship because of that deeply-rooted insecurity that comes from not knowing how to walk out the door anytime, anywhere and meet women.

When comes to dealing with competition from other guys when you are out of the "dating game" for a long time, there are actually 2 reasons to find the root of the problem.

1) INSECURITY. When you are insecure and do not trust yourself, you will always fear that someone else CAN snatch away your girlfriend/date. This is a bad thing because it then clouds your thinking, and creates an illusion that the woman you're with is BETTER than she is, and that you're WORSE than you are.

2) Jealousy. Jealousy is useless, and it can leads to stupid emotion like anger and anger may leads to violence. Women hate violence. If you resort to violence, I can bet that she will leave you immediately.

Therefore, you will need to feel confident about yourself first, so that it will not lead to jealousy.

Women are attracted to guys who are confident, and if she wants to leave, you can’t stop her anyway. And if she really leaves, just look for a new woman! Why fear?

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