Wednesday, July 11, 2007

How to Break Up with Her Using Sensitivity

I know that for some guys, asking for a breakup is a very hard thing to say out.

Breaking up is always hard to take for anyone who is in a relationship. No one likes the feeling of being dumped, but break-ups are an unavoidable part of our lives. For you guys out there, it is very important to end a relationship properly to avoid future bad relationship karma.

1. Do it in person. To initial a break-up over the phone to her is harsh. Meet up with her and explain why the relationship between you and her does not work out.

2. Pick an appropriate place. Remember, ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary.

3. Choose the right time. Try not to break up with her on special occasion or festive period, as you will not want her to remember you being so insensitive when every time that day rolls around.

4. Be honest. Tell her what does not work out. Let her understand that she will need to accept the truth and move on but do it in a sensitive way.

5. Keep your emotions in check. Don't seem too happy about the breakup: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate.

6. Don't over- react. Some people don't handle rejection well. Some people yell, scream, and cry. Do not react to their meltdown. Remember, rejection is tough. You've already got the upper hand by being the dumper. Let the dumpee behave ridiculously if they choose to. And if their tantrum escalates, get the heck out of there.

If you handle yourself well during the breakup, chances are you'll avoid any hard feelings with your ex. And while that may not seem so important at the time, it's vital to your future relationship karma!

1 comment:

Helen said...

Hi Crid! Thank you for the great post! I hope you don't mind that I've quoted it in my relationship break up advice article!

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