Sunday, November 11, 2007

How Do You Know Whether Is It Lust or Love?

Many people are confused between lust and love. A relationship which is built solely on lust only will not last long. When choosing the right mate for your relationship, physical attraction is not the most important factor that you need to consider.

Love and lust are easily confused because they are so much alike. Couples, who are in a relationship, where they do not share common interest at all other than an overwhelming physical desire for one another, may be just lust.

If a couple does not enjoy one another company unless they are having sex, it may also be lust after all. True love does consist more than all these things.

A couple who is truly in love will not care about the activity they are having, because they simply enjoy each other company. They share common interest and have similar ethics and morals. They will find it easy to talk to one another about anything under the sun and are able to discuss any conflicts openly without losing their tempers.

Most long-term relationships are built on a strong friendship which turns into love over a period of time. Sex is not the main driving force behind a long lasting relationship, although having it just makes the whole deal sweeter.

There are a few questions that you can ask yourself, be it whether you are a man or woman, to determine whether your feeling towards the other person is actually love or just lust. Read them slowly and answer each one of them truthfully:

1. Do you share common interests, moral and ethics?

2. Do you really care for his or her safety and happiness?

3. When in a conflict, are you able to talk to the other person in a very open, calm, and frank discussion, without losing your temper?

4. Can you talk to him or her about anything under the sun? Or is it just always sweet talk and things about sex?

5. Do you enjoy each other company, regardless of the activity?

6. Are you able to accept the other person when he or she is not at his or her best physical condition or appearance?

7. Are you willing to spend time with the other person even without having sex?

8. Do you have a mutual respect for the other person?

These are just some of the questions that you can ask yourself to solve the dilemma in you. Lust and love is just separated by a very thin line. Therefore, it is important for you to be able to tell the difference in order to save you from wasting your time perusing a relationship that is destined to fail.

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